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angular.module("app", [])
  .controller("controller", ["$scope", function($scope) {
    var self = this;
    self.optionType = 1;
    self.selectedVal = 0;

    self.optionList1 = [{
      optionValue: {
        id: 11
      },
      title: "id 11"
    }, {
      optionValue: {
        id: 12
      },
      title: "id 12"
    }];

    self.optionList2 = [{
      optionValue: {
        id: 21
      },
      title: "id 21"
    }, {
      optionValue: {
        id: 22
      },
      title: "id 22"
    }];

    self.selectOptionList = [];

    $scope.$watch(angular.bind(this, function() {
      return this.optionType;
    }), function(newVal, oldVal) {
      //if value of selectedValue can not be found in self.selectOptionList,
      // selectedValue will be assigned to null.
      if (newVal == 1) {
        self.selectOptionList = self.optionList1;
      } else if (newVal == 2) {
        self.selectOptionList = self.optionList2;
        self.selectedVal = 21;
      }
    });
  }]).directive('selectOptionCheckValidator', ["$parse", function($parse) {
    return {
      require: 'ngModel',
      link: function(scope, element, attrs, ngModel) {

        var regex = /(.+)\sas\s(.+)\sfor\s(.+)\sin\s(.+)/;
        var matchString = regex.exec(attrs.ngOptions);
        var collectionExpression = matchString[4]; // "ctrl.selectOptionList"
        var arryItemVarableName = matchString[3]; // "selectOption"
        var valueExpression = matchString[1]; // "selectOption.optionValue.id"

        scope.$watch(collectionExpression, function(newValue, oldValue) {
          checkIsSelectedValueInOptionList();
        });

        element.on("change", function() {
          scope.$apply(function() {
            checkIsSelectedValueInOptionList();
          });
        });

        function checkIsSelectedValueInOptionList() {
          var isSelectedValueInOptionList = false;
          var selectedValue = $parse(attrs.ngModel)(scope);
          var optionList = $parse(collectionExpression)(scope);

          if (optionList) {
            isSelectedValueInOptionList = optionList.some(function(option) {
            
              // create a custom scope object to render optionValue from valueExpression
              var optionTempObject = new function(){
              	this[arryItemVarableName] = option;
              };
              
              var optionValue = $parse(valueExpression)(optionTempObject);
              
              return optionValue == selectedValue;
            });
            
            ngModel.$setValidity("selectedValueInOptionList", isSelectedValueInOptionList);
          }          
        }
      }
    };
  }]);

<div ng-app="app" ng-controller="controller as ctrl">
  <form name="form">
    <label><input type="radio" name="optionType" ng-value="1" ng-model="ctrl.optionType" /> Set option list 1</label>
    <label><input type="radio" name="optionType" ng-value="2" ng-model="ctrl.optionType" /> Set option list 2</label>

    <select name="mySelector" ng-model="ctrl.selectedVal" ng-options="selectOption.optionValue.id as selectOption.title for selectOption in ctrl.selectOptionList" select-option-check-validator ng-required="true">
    </select>
    
    <button ng-click="ctrl.selectedVal = 0">
      Set selectedVal to 0
    </button>

    <div>
      ctrl.selectedVal : {{ctrl.selectedVal}}
    </div>

    <div>
      form.mySelector.$error.selectedValueInOptionList : {{form.mySelector.$error.selectedValueInOptionList ? "invalid" : "valid"}}
    </div>
    <div>
      form.mySelector.$error.selectedValueInOptionList : {{form.mySelector.$error.required ? "invalid" : "valid"}}
    </div>

  </form>
</div>