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HTML

<div id="main">
 <div class="a">aaaa</div>
 <div class="b"><p>not me</p></div>
 <div class="b">bbbb</div>
 <div class="b">bbbb</div>
 <div class="c">cccc</div>
</div>

JavaScript

$('div.b:not(:has(p:contains(not me)))').css('color', 'red');
$('div.b:has(p:contains(not me))').css('color', 'blue');