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HTML
<select name="t" id="t">
<option value="1" selected="selected">1</option>
<option value="2">2</option>
<option value="3">3</option>
<option value="4">4</option>
</select>
<button>Тыкни в меня</button>
JavaScript
$('button').click(function() {
$('#t option')
.removeAttr('selected')
.parent()
.find('option[value="2"]')
.attr('selected', 'selected');
});